It's in her Essence

Living in my masculine energy for survival was exhausting, so how could I learn to be gentle and create a balance? The result of being groomed in environments that did not allow me to feel safe or embed false concepts of what a strong woman is supposed to look like; I'm activelty learning how to tap into the #Essense of me. All of these things impact the way I show up to the world, cause and effect but the remedy is no longer beyond my grasp once I saw it. #IYKYK

A blank canvas

In finding my own balance no man can judge me because the battles I fight with self trump any insult of a your view from your window seat. I know me cause I fought me and I won. That’s why you can’t steal my joy or confidence, I built it. Hand made with God as my consultant I kept going. Without knowing, you assumed you know my type. But could never even image what I had to do to win that fight. - K.Sunni

Let it go

Releasing control and allowing the process of change to take place is a battle within its self that meets reward at your breaking point, surrender is necessary. There are powerful lessons in releasing control, like realizing how many times you've missed out on living to your greatest potential based on the fear of not having control. Truth is you never had control in the first place, but the idea of it does satisfy the ego.

I've identified where I no longer felt like I had control, and it lead me to where I subconsciously had been fighting to maintain my strength; all connected to my triggers. With each trigger I had to learn to allow, observe and plan how to take my power back. Old scenarios lost there luster as self-care became my focus. I had to learn to be gentle with me, I was not singled out by God to suffer but I was chosen to survive. The change of perspective was supported by how my life changed around me, I was safe and all is well.

Building Relationships

Find peace within, that process will look different for everyone so its important to learn what that feels like for YOU. This is what will allow you to build healthy relationships that are not a reflection of your past but rooted in your present energy. That inner work will become a reflection to the energy you attract and your discernment will grow stronger over time. Energies that you used to attract will not be tolerated, your frequency won't be a match. Trust yourself to build strong boundaries based on a healed perspective, you are no longer living in your past so respect the work that you've put in and for everything else get to know grace.

Future partners

Respect the value of a women who has embraced the opportunity to know how to live in both energies, respect her #Essence. Be solid, you have no need to control her she is a woman who longs to feel safe not controlled; respect her freedom. Her warrior spirit is an asset to you and the security you provide for her will allow her to open up to the love you have to offer. That same wild mind, has the ability to tame your darkness because she can meet you there, she’s lived it too; as an energy. She is a prized possession, without a doubt worth the work; its's in her essence, she is it.

Sunni